With the beginning of 2025, I’m beginning a new series on my blog- an exploration of the Divine Feminine. I have chosen a Goddess for each month right through until December. It allows me to explore the Goddess in deeper detail that is nourishing to both you and I- perfect as we sink into the heart of Winter in January. This series will allow me to honour and work with the Divine Feminine as the year spirals through the seasons, in Her different aspects, inspired by nature, the seasons, mythology and my own imagination. Each month, I’ll be writing a blog post that speaks around the Goddess I have chosen (or did She choose me?) her symbolism, any relevant mythology and stories, and a few insights into my work with Her over the four weeks I dedicate to these Goddesses.
I’m starting the series with Lilith. When I first began to feel into which Goddess would be my focus each month, Lilith came through for the Capricorn season (each Goddess is linked to a season) so I delved into her myth stories and history, reading around her, meditating and honouring the connection I’ve found with her.
It feels important to note here that the experiences that I have with the Goddesses that will be mentioned in this series over the next 12 months is my experience. I research these Goddesses where I can, to honour their stories and history, and I connect with the Divine Feminine in my own, unique way, shaped by where I live, my own experiences in life, and the path I walk as a Priestess. Take what resonates with you if you wish to connect with any of these Goddesses and begin to form your own personal practice, and leave what does not.
Lilith is an ancient female figure from both Mesopotamian and Jewish mythology. She is shrouded in mystery, her imagery varying greatly, including a demonic Mother and the first partner of Adam, her story being told in the Garden of Eden. Sometimes she is called a vampire, a succubus. She has inspired many tales and stories in literature and TV. Her roots come from Mesopotamian mythology, but her story and imagery has shape-shifted over the years.
Lilith, in Mesopotamian mythology, is a female demon with a name of Lilitu, a sexual demon that as a collective, were known as known as the Lilû. She is mentioned in the story of Gilgamesh, in which she fled from the Hulupuu Tree after Gilgamesh slayed the serpent- dragon. She later gained the titles of “Divine Lady” or “Queen of the Night” before she made her way into Jewish folklore, in which she was banished from the Garden of Eden after refusing to obey Adam, viewing herself as equal to him as she was made from clay at the same time as him.
Lilith has also come to be an Archetype for the Wild and Untamed Feminine- a woman who is in control of herself, is wild, authentic and free.
What would it mean to fully embrace your wild, authentic self?
I first started to feel a pull towards Lilith when I was working with the Archetype of The Good Girl. I knew of the story of Lilith from Jewish Mythology- the first wife of Adam that was banished from the Garden of Eden for refusing to submit to Adam, turning her into a demon that mothered other demons.
That was the extent of what I knew about her.
I had worked with Dark Goddesses before, but I was reluctant to work with an energy that had the attachment of the word demon to Her name. So I said no.
A few months later, I found myself researching her stories, her mythos, discovering for myself her origin in Mesopotamia. I dreamt of her, I spoke of Her with friends. I sought her out in books, and before long, She had a representation upon my altar dedicated to the Dark Goddess. A few years later, She is still upon my altar.
Lilith as an Archetype.
As I mentioned above, I was working the Archetype of The Good Girl when I first felt a pull towards Lilith- I was breaking down the people pleaser, and embracing the wilder edges of my own being- the untamed edges where Lilith had been waiting, patiently. She had respected my answer of ‘no’ and tended to her own wild garden until I approached Her. She came with lessons- and sometimes harsh reminders- to respect myself and be aware of who I give my energy to. She became a companion as I explored my shadows of rage and anger through my journal.
She represents the Archetype of the Untamed Feminine- she is raw, wild, unbound, unapologetic and living her life as she fully intended. She has strong connections to wilderness, sexuality and personal power. She is feared because of the strength and power she knows she possesses. Unafraid to speak her own mind- and using her voice without restraint- is what makes Lilith such a powerful Dark Goddess.
I could see why people feared her- why I was reluctant to answer her call when she first called my name. Dark Goddesses hold tough lessons from a place of love that require us to face ourselves in the darkest of nights and Lilith is no different- not in my experience. She requires me to walk a line that pushes on the boundaries of my comfort zone on a regular basis- as soon as my comfort zone expands into that area, She challenges me to explore the boundary of my new comfort zone once again, constantly nudging me into embracing my wild edges that can only be found at the places where your comfort zone ends.
Sometimes, when She asks something of me that is a little too much, or I need more time to process other areas of my life, I respectively say no- I’m not ready. She respects the boundary I place, and waits until I am ready.
Inviting Lilith into Your Life.
I’ve found Lilith different to the Goddesses that I’ve connected with on the land as a Priestess of Brigantia. I don’t sense her amongst the sweeping hills or in the sacred groves. I don’t find her on the banks of the river, or along the shoreline. Instead, She is there when I create the space and invite her in. She is there in my dreams, leaving me to decipher the meanings of the imagery She shows me whilst I sleep. Here are a few things I’ve found that really connect me with her.
- Wild Flowers.
I first knew of Lilith from the story of the Garden of Eden, of how she was the first wife of Adam and how she refused to submit and was banned from the garden. She found beauty in that garden though, so she tended to her own outside of the original garden. Her garden, I’ve found, is one of wildflowers that are self-sustaining and designed to be enjoyed and be sacred. I have dried and pressed wild flowers that I’ve collected whilst being out on nature walks in my sacred space for Lilith. I plan to scatter wild flowers in a section of my garden in Her honour, too. - Affirmations or Mantras.
Lilith speaks her mind, so I’ve found a good way to connect with Her energies is to set your own affirmations or mantras that focus on freedom or authenticity. - Reading.
Knowledge is power and a tool to help you speak your mind- so I read to expand my own knowledge in honour of Lilith. It doesn’t have to be something related to Her specifically, but I always have a fiction and non-fiction book with a bookmark in at any one time (sometimes there’s more than one fiction!) so look for what interests you- expand your knowledge or read something of pure fiction, just for the love of it. - Shadow Work.
As with many Dark Goddesses, there’s a theme of doing the deep work. Facing your fears and the parts of you that you cast aside through shame or wanting to fit in, where you felt restricted or inauthentic to yourself. - Correspondences.
There are several correspondences that I’ve found work well for connecting with Lilith- owls, serpents, the colour black, etc. Work with these through meditation, altar setup, or choosing what to wear to invoke Her energies.
Lilith is a Goddess that, in modern spirituality, has come to represent freedom, feminism, and empowerment. It’s important to remember her roots from Mesopotamia as well as Jewish mythology, but also to recognise what she has come to symbolise in modern spirituality. You may want to find your own way of connecting with this Goddess- so how may she inspire you to step into your most authentic self?